Michelle Obama got candid in a sold-out stadium filled with nearly 20,000 people at New York City’s Barclays Center on Saturday.
From the Hamilton soundtrack on repeat to special guest appearances by Faith Hill, The Root’s ‘Questlove’ and Uzo Aduba, Michelle’s “Intimate conversation” had the energy of a rock concert.
As part of her 10 city tour for her new autobiography, Becoming, the former first lady took the stage in a chic white power suit and Jimmy Choo heels and dished on everything from her early days as ‘little Meesh’ to her time at the White House. Michelle didn’t leave anything out and even accidentally let the ‘S’ bomb slip which garnered a standing ovation and cheers from the audience.
“Marriage still ain’t equal, y’all. It ain’t equal. I tell women that whole ‘you can have it all’ — mmm, nope, not at the same time, that’s a lie. It’s not always enough to lean in because that s*** doesn’t work.”
On the topic of marriage, Michelle detailed just how Barack swept her off her feet. She described how upon first meeting him, she wasn’t interested but it was his persistence that won her over.
“I had never met a black dude like Barack Obama. Not only his background and where had traveled and who is parents were and he was always very introspective and he had been a community organizer. I hadn’t met a Harvard black dude who had been a community organizer in neighborhoods on the far south side where most people in the firm didn’t know those neighborhoods, he had been all up in those neighborhoods and those churches. So he understood the community in a full way but he was not arrogant, he was humble. I also liked the way he treated others,” she told the crowd.
“What impressed me was how he treated the secretaries and the paralegals and the people in the elevator. As I got to know him I saw how he treated his sister, how he respected the strength of his mother, his relationship with his grandmother. All of that was much more appealing to me than his walk, or his look or his talk or his degrees. And sometimes we as women, miss out on good brothas’ because we are to busy looking at their stats and we’re not looking at their story. And Barack Obama’s story was all swervy and interesting and that’s what I fell in love with.”
“I wanted to know so much about one person and another thing about Barack was he wasn’t playing games. That was another appealing thing. You know the brotha’s who are like ‘yeah I want to date you but let’s figure this out and I’m not sure how I feel,’ I had done that and Barack was like ‘I am interested in you, I want to see where this goes, I want to be serious about this,’ and he took the relationship to the next level clear and focused. He was unapologetic and not worried about looking too in love. He was ready to be in love and dudes out there, that is so appealing. Having a man who is unafraid to commit to not marriage but just to you, just to explore what this will be. Not calling it anything other than what it is, which is a relationship and he embraced the relationship part of it. We both fell.”